Sarala Life — Life in Chapters: Careers, Canines, Cabernet & Courage

A life well-poured: work, wine, and everything in between.

  • It’s been a while since I sat down to write here. Not because I had nothing to say—but because life, in its usual unapologetic fashion, has been lifing.

    And honestly? Sometimes when life is lifing, the words stay in your head longer than they make it to the page.

    So, here we are. A proper catch-up.

    First things first: I survived the flu from hell. You know the kind—the one that has you questioning every life choice, every immune-boosting vitamin you forgot to take, and whether breathing has always required this much effort. Recovery felt less like “bouncing back” and more like a slow, reluctant crawl back to humanity.

    But in brighter news… I started golf lessons.

    Yes. Golf.

    If you had told me a year ago I’d be voluntarily standing in the sun, trying to perfect a swing while muttering at tiny white balls, I may have laughed. And yet here we are.

    And I am absolutely loving it.

    There is something unexpectedly therapeutic about it. The focus. The frustration. The tiny wins. The reminder that you cannot muscle your way through everything—sometimes you need rhythm, patience, posture, breath.

    Honestly? Feels like a metaphor for life.

    Speaking of life metaphors…

    I am deep in preparation mode for the Fearless Women’s Summit in St Lucia at the end of June, and let me tell you—being brave is expensive.

    This is my first time doing a swag bag for an event.

    A thing I decided to do entirely on my own because I want to promote my business, create something meaningful, and maybe—if I’m being fully transparent—prove to myself that I belong in these spaces.

    Cue me spiralling between “quality matters” and “dear God, why does branded anything cost THIS much?”

    Entrepreneurship has a very particular flavour of fear, doesn’t it?

    Corporate courage looked different. There were budgets. Approval processes. Expense lines.

    This version? This is looking at your own bank account while whispering, we’re doing this, right?

    Terrifying.

    Also deeply affirming.

    Because somewhere between the quote comparisons, logo proofs, and internal negotiations, I’ve had to confront something important:

    I have credibility that exists independently of a company title.

    Not theoretically.

    Actually.

    A few client recommendations recently reminded me of that.

    That people see the value.

    That my work mattered.

    That my experience is mine.

    That worth does not evaporate because the business card changed.

    Apparently growth looks like crying over Canva mockups and then having an identity breakthrough.

    Who knew?

    And because life believes in emotional multitasking, therapy decided this was also an excellent time to hand me a particularly difficult truth.

    That some of the hurtful things my mother says to me…

    …have nothing to do with me.

    Read that again.

    Nothing.

    To.

    Do.

    With.

    Me.

    That doesn’t mean they don’t hurt.

    It doesn’t mean I suddenly float above them in enlightened peace.

    It simply means that love and hurt can co-exist in complicated relationships.

    That someone can love you and still wound you.

    That “mother” does not automatically equal emotionally safe.

    That boundaries are not betrayals.

    Whew.

    That one was… deep.

    On a wildly less profound but equally real note—I am also hosting a house party.

    Which apparently means I have become Operations Director of Pool Deck Restoration, Plant Rehabilitation, Glassware Logistics, and Domestic Crisis Management because my darling husband has absolutely no interest in cleaning the pool deck or repotting the plants.

    Marriage is beautiful.

    And sometimes marriage is looking at a neglected hibiscus and choosing peace.

    Also on my heart lately: George.

    I’m increasingly convinced my sweet boy may be losing his hearing.

    Not the selective “I heard you but respectfully decline” kind.

    The real kind.

    The calling-him-and-getting-nothing kind.

    And if you’re a dog parent, you already understand how these quiet observations settle somewhere tender in your chest.

    We’re watching.

    Adjusting.

    Loving him loudly anyway.

    In happier doggie news, over the past six months we’ve become those pet parents.

    The ones introducing fresh human-grade bone broth, chicken, spinach wet food, and thoughtful supplements to support hips, joints, coats, and general canine fabulousness.

    And honestly? The dogs are thriving.

    The unexpected joy in all this has been discovering and supporting a local Trinidadian business doing something genuinely needed.

    Kaja Pet Food.

    Woman-owned. Smart. Fresh. Filling a gap.

    And perhaps because of where I am in life right now, supporting her business feels bigger than pet food.

    It feels like alignment.

    Because let’s be honest—the cost of living right now is offensive.

    Consumerism is exhausting.

    Everything costs more.

    Everyone is selling something.

    And yet.

    There is something deeply meaningful about intentionally choosing where your dollars go.

    Especially when they go toward another woman building something brave.

    Because I understand those scary spends now.

    I understand the hope attached to every order.

    The self-doubt.

    The courage.

    The “please let this work.”

    And perhaps that’s made me softer.

    Or stronger.

    Maybe both.

    Which brings me to my newest mantra:

    No compare. No compete. No gossip.

    Simple.

    Not easy.

    Because if I’m honest, competitive thoughts still creep in.

    Comparison still taps me on the shoulder.

    The old reflex still whispers.

    But now I notice it.

    I pause.

    I self-check.

    And I choose differently.

    That’s growth too.

    The humbling kind.

    The kind where you realise peace is less about eliminating human thoughts and more about deciding which ones get to stay.

    And there is something incredibly freeing about becoming deeply committed to your own path.

    Not hers.

    Not theirs.

    Yours.

    Messy.

    Beautiful.

    Expensive.

    Healing.

    Golf-playing.

    Dog-broth-buying.

    Boundary-learning.

    Speaker-prepping.

    Plant-neglecting.

    Very human.

    Yours.

    Anyway.

    That’s the catch-up.

    Thanks for being here.

  • Daily writing prompt
    What’s a simple pleasure in life that brings you joy?

    There was a time when I might have answered this with something polished. A good glass of wine. A favourite book. Travel. A quiet evening.

    And while all of those things do bring me joy, yesterday reminded me that some of life’s simplest pleasures are actually far less about things and far more about presence.

    Yesterday, I tried something just for me: golf.

    Now, let me be clear—I am absolutely not declaring myself a golfer after one outing. But there was something unexpectedly joyful about trying something new simply because I wanted to. No productivity metric attached. No strategic objective. No pressure to be excellent immediately. Just curiosity, laughter, and the slightly humbling experience of discovering muscles I clearly haven’t been using.

    The rest of the day was gloriously ordinary in the best way.

    Client meetings. Errands. The usual juggling act of adult life.

    And yet somehow, tucked in between responsibility, there was space for movement, for sunshine, for a few blissful hours in the pool with my husband and two dear friends, while my doggies did what happy doggies do best—running around as if joy itself had paws.

    And I found myself thinking: this is it.

    Not the grand milestones.
    Not the big announcements.
    Not the glossy moments we think we should be chasing.

    This.

    A full day. A grateful heart. People you love. A body that lets you move. Trying something new. Water. Laughter. Dogs. Connection.

    Simple pleasures, I’m learning, are often just moments where life feels wonderfully, deeply enough.

    And honestly? A day rooted in gratitude may be one of the greatest simple pleasures of all.

  • Daily writing prompt
    If you could erase one movie from your memory and watch it again for the first time, which one would it be?

    Not because it’s a perfect film (we can debate that over wine), but because the first time you watch it, it feels like a permission slip.

    Permission to unravel.
    Permission to ask harder questions.
    Permission to admit that the life that looks “fine” on paper may not be the life your soul can breathe in.

    Some movies entertain you. Some quietly hold up a mirror.

    Eat Pray Love would be that one for me—not for the romance, though Javier Bardem certainly didn’t hurt—but for the reminder that reinvention is not failure. That choosing yourself can be both terrifying and necessary. That healing is messy, nonlinear, occasionally carb-filled, and sometimes requires crossing oceans… or at least crossing the uncomfortable distance between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming.

    I think I’d want to watch it again for the first time because this version of me would understand it so differently.

    And honestly? Any movie that says healing may involve pasta, prayer, perspective, and a handsome man in Bali deserves a rewatch.

  • It’s been a while.

    April 24th, apparently. Which feels both like yesterday and three lifetimes ago.

    Turns out imposter syndrome has excellent tailoring.

    Life happened.

    A trip to New York for a legal conference that, if I am being honest, came with far more internal dialogue than anyone looking at my outfits would have guessed. There is something deeply exposing about showing up in a room where you know no one, in a city that isn’t yours, surrounded by accomplished professionals, while your brain—despite all available evidence—whispers, What exactly are you doing here?

    As if I am not, in fact, one of those professionals.

    As if my seat required explaining.

    As if the years, the experience, the work, the expertise somehow became less valid because I arrived alone.

    And layered into that? The very real arithmetic of independent life.

    Because when you step out of corporate and into something you are building yourself, there is freedom—but there is also math.

    Conference tickets.
    Flights.
    Hotels.
    Meals.
    Bills waiting at home.
    The quiet awareness that every dollar spent on yourself is a dollar not attached to guaranteed paying work.

    That balance can be confronting.

    The tension between investing in your future and protecting your present.

    Between ambition and anxiety.

    Between living… and surviving.

    And yet, while I was in New York, in all my imposter-syndrome-fuelled glory, conversations happened. Connections happened. Opportunity happened. Someone reached out about a possible role.

    Because that is the thing fear never tells you.

    Movement creates possibility.

    Investing in yourself occasionally looks like overpriced city food and a side of existential questioning.

    Staying home in certainty rarely does.

    Then life, because life likes a plot twist, handed me a truly offensive flu.

    Not the elegant kind where you still look vaguely charming in matching pyjamas. No.

    The kind where you question your immune system, your life choices, and whether breathing has always been this dramatic.

    Somewhere in all of this, I was chatting with my mother, updating her on the conference, the experience, how genuinely happy I am in this season—even with its uncertainty.

    And her response?

    “As long as what makes you happy pays.”

    Pause.

    Now listen—I understand the sentiment.

    I am a grown woman. Financially independent since I was 20. I understand responsibility. I understand bills. I understand that joy does not call the bank on your behalf.

    But it did make me pause.

    Because why is money so often the first lens through which happiness gets assessed?

    Why are we so uncomfortable with someone choosing a life that looks different, even when they are visibly more alive in it?

    Perhaps that is a bigger therapy conversation for another day.

    Because yes—of course I worry.

    I am not floating through life on vibes and Veuve alone.

    I care deeply about stability. About work. About ensuring I can sustain the life I want.

    But I also refuse to believe the only valid life is one where security comes at the cost of joy.

    This weekend was my anniversary.

    Luxury? Leftovers, Netflix, and duty-free bubbles.

    I gave my husband very clear instructions that champagne from duty free was a non-negotiable act of love.

    And despite surviving the tail end of this infernal flu, we had the loveliest kind of weekend.

    A cheeky couple of glasses of white wine and mozzarella sticks at lunch.

    Champagne at home while watching an old Netflix movie.

    Dinner built entirely around leftovers.

    Random G&Ts.

    Laughter with friends.

    Red wine under a beautiful night sky.

    No grand performance. No curated luxury.

    Just life.

    Good life.

    Proof that healing occasionally looks like hydration. Just not always with water.

    And now here I am, on a Sunday, finishing the last rebellious glass of champagne from the bottle (yes, I know), eating leftover hummus, contemplating whether exercise returns to the menu or whether wellness today looks suspiciously like doing absolutely nothing.

    And maybe that is the point.

    Two things can be true at the same time.

    Life can be uncertain and deeply good.

    You can worry about paying your bills and be profoundly grateful.

    You can feel fear and still board the plane.

    You can miss corporate certainty and never want your old life back.

    Ambition has not left me.

    It is stitched too deeply into who I am.

    Whatever I do, I will bring diligence. Excellence. Commitment. Heart.

    But fear?

    Fear is an energy vampire with terrible ideas.

    It steals joy and offers absolutely no practical solutions in return.

    And unless we let it, it does not get to drive.

    So if this Sunday finds you somewhere between uncertainty and possibility, between spreadsheets and champagne, between questioning and becoming—

    keep moving.

    Life changes in a second.

    Sometimes beautifully.

    And sometimes the bravest thing you can do is continue anyway.

    I survived the fear. I am still here. And I’m laughing. 🥂Cheers to that. 🥂

  • Daily writing prompt
    Describe a risk you took that you do not regret.

    There was a point where I stopped asking, “What’s the safest move?” and started asking, “What’s the most honest one?”

    That shift was a risk.

    I took a risk on me—on stepping away from what looked stable and successful on the outside, but didn’t feel aligned on the inside. I took a risk on my marriage—choosing to show up more truthfully, not perfectly, and trusting that honesty would build something stronger than silence ever could. I took a risk on a re-imagined life—one that didn’t come with a clear map, a guaranteed outcome, or the comfort of external validation.

    And perhaps the hardest risk of all—I took a risk on feeling.

    On naming the shame I had neatly tucked away behind achievement and resilience. On admitting that strength doesn’t mean untouched, and that healing isn’t linear or pretty. On allowing myself to sit with discomfort instead of rushing to fix or perform my way out of it.

    I’ve made mistakes along the way. I’ve second-guessed myself. I’ve had moments where the old version of me—the one who preferred certainty over truth—felt safer.

    But I don’t regret it.

    Because in taking those risks, I met a version of myself I hadn’t fully allowed to exist before—one that is softer, but not weaker; more honest, but still discerning; still ambitious, but no longer at the cost of my peace.

    It turns out the real risk wasn’t leaving what I knew.

    The real risk would have been staying there, and never meeting her at all.

    Learning to sit with myself, without rushing to become someone else.

  • Daily writing prompt
    What makes you nervous?

    Lately, it’s not the big things that make me nervous.

    Not the rooms I walk into alone.
    Not the titles I no longer carry.
    Not even the uncertainty of building something of my own.

    It’s the quieter things.

    The email that feels slightly loaded.
    The question that isn’t really a question.
    The shift in tone that my body reads before my mind catches up.

    Because when you’ve lived in high-functioning survival mode for a long time—especially in corporate spaces where performance and politics often sit too close together—your nervous system learns patterns that don’t just disappear when you leave.

    They follow you.

    So now, in this season of transition—where I am softer, freer, more aligned—I am also… relearning.

    Relearning that not everything is a threat.
    Relearning that not every delay is rejection.
    Relearning that I don’t have to brace myself before I respond.

    And if I’m honest, that’s what makes me nervous.

    Not the work. I know how to work.
    Not the strategy. I’ve built that muscle over years.

    It’s trusting myself to respond from who I am now…
    and not who I had to be to survive.

    Because trauma response mode is efficient.
    It’s sharp.
    It’s protective.

    But it is also exhausting.

    And stepping out of it means sitting in moments where I don’t immediately react. Where I pause. Where I choose a response that isn’t driven by fear, urgency, or the need to prove.

    It means allowing things to be unclear without rushing to control them.
    It means letting people show me who they are without pre-emptively defending myself.
    It means answering queries without over-explaining, over-delivering, or overcompensating.

    That’s new territory.

    And new territory—even when it’s better—can feel unfamiliar enough to make you nervous.

    But here’s what I’m learning:

    Nervous doesn’t always mean “not safe.”
    Sometimes it means “not used to this yet.”

    So when I feel it now, I don’t rush to fix it.

    I sit with it.
    I breathe through it.
    I remind myself—

    I am no longer in that environment.
    I am no longer that version of me.

    And I get to choose how I show up now.

    Even if my voice shakes a little at first.

  • Daily writing prompt
    Jot down the first thing that comes to your mind.

    There’s something quietly honest about the first thing that comes to your mind. No filters. No polish. Just truth—raw, unedited, and usually far more telling than the versions we dress up later.

    So here’s mine:

    This is a life I’m learning to live, not control.

    It came to me somewhere between a structured morning of ALTA tutor training—brain switched on, pen moving, absorbing frameworks and ideas—and an entirely unstructured afternoon that followed absolutely none of those rules.

    Because after discipline came spontaneity.

    A random G&T afternoon. The kind that wasn’t planned, but somehow was exactly what the day needed. Conversations that didn’t try too hard. Laughter that didn’t ask permission. The kind of pause that reminds you life isn’t a checklist—it’s a rhythm.

    And somewhere in the middle of all that, I skipped my workout.

    Old me would have spiralled a little there. Negotiated with guilt. Tried to “make up” for it in some performative way. But today? Today I just… didn’t.

    Because balance is not built in a single decision. It’s built in the permission to choose differently without punishing yourself for it.

    Pizza happened too. Not as a reward. Not as a rebellion. Just as part of the day. Warm, easy, uncomplicated—like the mood I’m trying to hold onto more often.

    And now, here I am, chilling on a quiet Sunday that feels full in a way that has nothing to do with productivity metrics.

    Not everything was “perfect.”
    Not everything was “optimal.”
    But everything was mine.

    That first thought still lingers.

    This is a life I’m learning to live, not control.

    Maybe that’s what these days are teaching me—that growth doesn’t always look like discipline and structure. Sometimes it looks like loosening your grip. Letting the day unfold. Trusting that who you are becoming doesn’t disappear just because you paused, pivoted, or chose joy.

    A day well spent isn’t always the one you planned.

    Sometimes, it’s the one you allowed. ✨

  • Daily writing prompt
    What place in the world do you never want to visit? Why?

    I’ve been thinking about this, and the honest answer is… there isn’t a place in the world I never want to visit.

    But there is a place I refuse to return to.

    It’s the version of me that shrinks to fit.
    The rooms where I question my worth before I even speak.
    The spaces where I let others take up so much air that I forget I’m allowed to breathe too.

    I’ve visited that place before — more than once, if I’m honest.
    It’s where fear dresses up as politeness.
    Where self-doubt whispers louder than truth.
    Where shame and guilt convince you to stay small, stay quiet, stay agreeable.

    And the thing about that place?
    It looks familiar. Sometimes even comfortable.
    But it costs too much.

    Because every time I go there, I abandon parts of myself to make others feel secure.
    I negotiate my voice.
    I dilute my presence.
    I accept less — not because that’s what I deserve, but because it feels safer than taking up space.

    So no, there isn’t a country or city I’d rule out completely.
    But I am deeply intentional about the internal spaces I revisit.

    I don’t go where I have to shrink.
    I don’t stay where I feel “not enough.”
    And I don’t entertain environments — or people — that make me live in fear, self-doubt, shame, guilt, or uncertainty.

    These days, I choose places — and spaces — that expand me.
    That meet me where I am, not where I’ve outgrown.

    So the answer isn’t a pin on a map.
    It’s a boundary.

    There are many places in this world I may still explore.
    But that version of me?

    She’s not a destination anymore.

  • There is something deeply daunting about attending conference events when you are in a season of transition.

    Not the polished, curated version of transition we like to talk about on panels—but the raw, unsteady, “who am I in this version of my life?” kind.

    You walk into a room alone.
    No company banner behind you.
    No colleagues orbiting you.
    No easy identity to slip into.

    And if I’m honest… that part is uncomfortable.

    But what is even more uncomfortable?
    Being in a room with people who are not your people.
    Who never were.


    I went to an event yesterday—stellar, energising, exactly where I wanted to be.
    I looked fantastic (yes, I’m claiming that).
    I felt prepared. Open. Ready to receive.

    And the keynote speaker? Brilliant.
    The kind that reminds you why you show up in the first place.

    But more than that—something shifted.

    Because when you take the step for yourself…
    when you show up imperfectly, independently, without a safety net…
    opportunity meets you there.

    Not before.
    Not when it’s comfortable.
    There.


    But let’s talk about the human moment.

    That flicker of imposter syndrome.
    That quiet question: Is this the shame we talk about in therapy? The one that whispers that your value is conditional?

    Because what I noticed—what I felt—were the glances.

    The people who know you.
    Who have worked with you.
    Who have shared rooms, wins, maybe even drinks with you…

    …and now see no reason to say hello.

    And yes—it gives you pause.
    It can sting, if you let it.

    But only for a moment.


    Because then something else settles in.

    Clarity.

    That behaviour? It says nothing about your value.
    But it says everything about theirs.

    We talk a lot about corporate politics—and I am not new to it.
    But I have always chosen to be open. Warm. Generous.

    Not perfectly. But consistently.

    So when someone looks straight past you—
    when someone who once stood beside you now chooses silence—
    you realise something important:

    Shame does not reveal truth.
    It distorts it.


    And then there are the others.

    The ones who do acknowledge you.
    Who meet your eye.
    Who say your name.

    The brave ones.
    The grounded ones.

    The ones who understand that value is not situational.

    And here is the truth I am anchoring into:

    Knowing your value is not something you say.
    It is something you stand in—whether they speak to you or not.


    Life has taught me that it is both vast and incredibly small.

    We come back around.

    We cross paths again.

    And the quiet lesson remains—
    never become so important that you forget to be decent.

    Because what is more telling than power… is how you hold it.


    I had a moment—twice, actually—over two days.

    The same person.
    Two different spaces.

    Close enough to speak.
    Close enough to acknowledge.

    And yet—nothing.

    And instead of anger, I felt something unexpected:

    I felt sorry for them.

    Because imagine being so consumed by perception, by positioning,
    that you cannot offer something as simple as hello.


    This season I am in—the one outside of direct corporate structure—has stretched me.

    It has stripped away titles, proximity, easy validation.

    But it has also given me something far more powerful:

    Perspective.

    Because two things can be true at once.

    You can honour where you came from…
    and still outgrow the spaces that once defined you.


    So here is the reminder I am holding onto:

    You are valuable. Full stop.
    Not because of who stands beside you.
    Not because of who acknowledges you.
    But because of who you are.


    There are moments I still feel the urge to shrink.

    To soften my presence.
    To make others comfortable.

    But I am learning—slowly, deliberately—

    to walk differently.

    With intention.
    With ownership.
    Like someone in command of her own path.


    In other news—because life is always layered—

    I’ve started preparing for the Fearless Women’s Summit.

    A speech that feels deeply personal.
    One about transformation—about stepping out of a life I let define me for far too long.

    It’s scary.

    I want to get it right.

    But I also can’t wait to stand in a room filled with powerful women
    and just… be present.


    Easter has passed.

    My husband and I are now playing a little game of travel tag over the next few weeks.
    And I am quietly looking forward to our anniversary weekend—not just to celebrate us, but to celebrate, full stop.

    Because life… is worth celebrating.


    I’m also back to preparing for an exam.

    I was in a rut for a bit—real life, real feelings, real fatigue.

    But something has shifted.

    The dusty exam brain is waking back up.


    It’s been a sun-filled week.

    Pool time.
    Doggy time.
    Quiet moments.
    A reset that didn’t look dramatic—but felt necessary.


    So here’s what I’ll leave you with:

    Make the moments.
    And then make them count.

    Even the uncomfortable ones.
    Especially those.

    Because sometimes the room that tests you…
    is the very one that reminds you who you are becoming.

  • I didn’t write for two weeks.

    Not because I had nothing to say — but because I finally gave myself permission not to say anything at all.

    And in that quiet, something shifted.

    The past week — leading into and through Easter — wasn’t loud or dramatic or filled with “milestones.” It was softer than that. It was laughter spilling out over kitchen counters. It was flour-dusted fingers from baking m signature carrot cake. It was long, unstructured conversations with friends who feel like home. It was my husband, my dogs, and the kind of ease you don’t realize you’ve been craving until you’re inside of it.

    It was… enough.

    I tried something new too — mahjong.
    And listen, I don’t fully know what I’m doing yet, but there was something about sitting around a table, learning, playing, being present in something low-stakes ( haha- have you met my competitive side) and joyful. No performance. No outcome attached. Just… being.

    That might be the biggest shift of all.

    Because if I’m honest, I’ve spent a lot of time in seasons where everything needed to mean something. Every move tied to progress. Every effort tied to growth. Every moment accounted for.

    But this week?

    This week reminded me that not everything has to be productive to be purposeful.

    Rest is not a gap in the story.
    It is the story.

    And somewhere between the reading (more pages than I’ve touched in months), the quiet mornings, the shared meals, and the laughter that felt almost childlike at times — I felt something loosen.

    A release.

    Not of ambition — never that.
    But of pressure.

    And now, as I look ahead to New York — to rooms filled with sharp minds, evolving conversations, and the kind of energy that expands you — I feel ready in a different way.

    Not rushed. Not chasing. Not proving.

    Just… open.

    Open to the experience.
    Open to the conversations.
    Open to who I am becoming in this next chapter — not because I forced it, but because I allowed myself the space to arrive there.

    Maybe that’s the lesson I’m carrying forward:

    You don’t always have to push into what’s next.
    Sometimes, you rest your way into it.